I may be bi, but I'm NOT curious - I know exactly what I want. Smart, gorgeous, powerful femme seeks someone who can handle me. "Laid back" is not in my vocabulary. I'm a curvaceous, bright, stylish woman who's looking for passion, romance, and a lifelong companion.

I'm smart, queer, funny, and kinky (mostly sub/bottom). I'm a goth girl who dresses up like a pirate when the mood takes me. I'm a fantastic cook, a decent student of belly dance, and an incisive, if somewhat lazy, scholar. I'm looking for someone with intelligence, wit, intensity, and courage who radiates passion and pleasure. I want someone with enough confidence not to be intimidated by me - I want a partner, not a fan club.

I'm usually most attracted to men with non-traditional, somewhat androgynous good looks (Johnny Depp needs to call me!) But the right personality wins it all. I like someone who is smart, comfortable with himself and others, at ease both leading and following, generous in bed without being a know-it-all. Feminist men are often very sexy. Geek-knowledge is great but just because we watch the same TV shows doesn't mean we have anything actually in common. Be honest - can you offer me what I need and deserve?

I will disappoint you if you want a flat belly, arm candy, a savior, a mommy, a leg up socially, or a teacher. I'm verbal, sharp, and difficult, and yet generous, loving, and worth the effort.

I'm fierce but vulnerable, determined but sometimes a little fragile, self-knowledgable but still growing, a risk-taker who wants security. I dance like nobody's watching.

I've been married. I like women as well as men and I'm very open about being queer and advocating for the GLBT community. I'm finishing a PhD. I may want a kid someday. I wear makeup and don't even own a pair of blue jeans. I'm not your typical Denver "snowboarding, mountain biking" type and I have little to nothing in common with people who are. If any of that is a problem for you, this probably isn't the ad you want to answer.

NO couples, no hookups, no self-important doms with mind games, no secretive types, no Republicans or Libertarians. I will not do your girlfriend and let you watch. Average Joes, bored husbands looking for a little on the side, geeks who lack social skills, and younguns need not apply. I'm tired of hearing from men who say "we have a lot in common" when what they mean is "we both breathe air and live on earth, and you have big breasts." You finding me interesting and attractive is not the same as me finding you interesting. Capice?

Seeking my match